Wednesday, February 4, 2009

"Standing On The Summit Of Our Hour: A Memoir Dedicated to U.P."

An article published in the Profiles of Excellence/Directory of the University of the Philippines Alumni Association of San Diego to commemorate the centennial celebration of the University of the Philippines.





(Then)

BEATRICE “BETTY” BURGOS BAEL
MASTERS IN PUBLIC ADMINISTRATION,
UP-College of Public Administration


(Then)


EDWIN DOREMON BAEL

MASTERS IN PUBLIC ADMINISTRATION, UP-College of Public Administration
Robert Stauffer Awardee for Academic Excellence, No. 1 in the Dean's List



“STANDING ON THE SUMMIT OF OUR HOUR:
A Memoir Dedicated to U.P."


By Edwin and Betty Bael


“And now that we have returned to the desultory life of the plain, let us endeavor to import a little of that mountain grandeur into it. We will remember within what walls we lie, and understand that this level life too has its summit, and why from the mountain-top the deepest valleys have a tinge of blue; that there is elevation in every hour, as no part of the earth is so low that the heavens may not be seen from, and we have only to stand on the summit of our hour to command an uninterrupted horizon”. ~Henry David Thoreau

Part One

Prologue. A product of all-girls Catholic schools, Betty had learned all the finer things of a sheltered life but not much about what was beyond the four walls of those schools. It was only when she met Edwin that the real world and the bigger picture took some meaning. Edwin, a self-made man who had to burn his candles to stay on top of the class in all his academic life, had conquered self and the world. Their desire to hold everyone in high esteem and to uplift the image of the Filipino, is a passion that they learned and developed through their public service. This started when they were sweethearts at the University of the Philippines College of Public Administration where they first learned the value of true governance and of having a mission that goes beyond the self. After they both finished their courses at the graduate school, they got married. With that, their fate to serve the country and the Filipino was sealed forever and both have given their best and most productive 20 years of their life as a career diplomat couple. Today, as they start a new life beyond public service, they both become each other’s advocate, pillar, anchor, frontrunner, work horse – all rolled into one, to continue to promote and showcase the positive and the beauty of the Filipino.

The Self-Made Barrio Boy (Dipolog City, Zamboanga del Norte). "The charm, one might say, the genius of memory, is that it is choosy, chancy, and temperamental: it rejects the edifying cathedral and indelibly photographs the small boy outside, chewing a hunk of melon in the dust." ~Elizabeth Bowen. In a pensive mood, Edwin remembers how this serious, scholarly barrio boy practically grew up with books as his ‘barkada’ (company), spending many silent moments with them, hungrily devouring every bit of knowledge while sitting in that one quiet seaside corner of Mindanao - Dipolog City, Zamboanga del Norte, he dearly loved as his hometown. That was most of his childhood memory – a constant struggle to be always #1 in class to enjoy 100% tuition-free education from grade one till law and graduate schools. He can still vividly see all those first honors/valedictorian ribbons and plaques consistently hung on the walls of their humble abode year after year – the pride and joy of his family. As a political science student at the Mindanao State University in the 70’s, he became a crusading student leader (Supreme Student Council Member/ROTC Corps Commander) and was imprisoned (without charges!) for 22 days when Martial Law was declared. This thirst for knowledge, idealism of youth, coupled with leadership ability later on developed into a burning passion to serve the public, especially the underdog. This became the dominant force that influenced his future dreams and hopes. Graduating Magna Cum Laude from Andres Bonifacio U Law School in Dipolog City, he passed the 1978 Philippine Bar exams with an 87.15% rating, a surprise to many law graduates from well-known law schools in Manila. He joined Court of Appeals as attorney researcher and at the same time obtained full-time MPA scholarship from nearby UP College of Public Administration in Padre Faura, to pursue his dream of serving his province and somehow make a difference. But that fateful first day of school totally changed all that…

The Fairy Tale Girl (San Carlos City, Negros Occidental). “Happy is she who still loves something in the nursery: She has not been broken in two by time; she is not two women, but one, and she has saved not only her soul but her life.” ~G.K. Chesterton. Dreamlike, she recalls the innocent, scared, and shy provincial girl lost in the pages of her fairy tale books, who hails from the once prosperous Sugarlandia in the Visayas – San Carlos City, Negros Occidental. Still with the pungent molasses smell stuck in her nostrils, she dreamt her day away tiptoeing on green verdant plains and valleys carpeted with sugarcane fields. Always alone with her fairy tale fantasies and only awakened by the simple joys and warmth of family love, it was the only life she knew or ever cared to know which sheltered her from the big wide strange world. Catholic values from home and school dominated most of her childhood and young adulthood. With simple dreams of obtaining a college education, then returning home and marry a local lad, she finished Bachelor of Arts in a Catholic all-girls school, St. Theresa’s College in Cebu City where she developed her penchant for arts and culture, enhanced her social graces and awakened her social consciousness. Immediately after graduation, she applied for local jobs but was turned down because of her inexperience and shyness. However, one day Dr. Ramon Valmayor, a family friend offered her sister a job in Los Banos which the latter declined. As a new graduate with a shy personality, she was the second best choice. With much gratitude to Dr. Valmayor, an internationally well-known banana scientist and an executive of the Philippine Council for Agriculture and Resources Research and Development (PCARRD) located at that time inside the UP Los Banos campus, she anxiously accepted her first job. This was her very first step to the big wide ‘scary’ world! Little did she know that after 2 years working with the Council, her fate would start to unfold. She received a full-time two-year MS scholarship sponsored by USAID through the Council, and did not even realize that she sat beside Edwin on the first day of graduate school in UP-Padre Faura.

Destiny At The U.P. Padre Faura. “The world is so empty if one thinks only of the mountains, rivers, and cities; but to know someone who thinks and feels with us, who is close to us in spirit, this makes the earth for us an inhabited garden.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. All of a sudden, there he was striding inside the classroom with an aura of confidence looking for an empty seat at the back. The noisy ladies hush-hushed a bit as they curiously turned their heads to check who just came in. Unaware of what was happening, Betty who was seated at the back was somehow captivated with the whole aura of the classroom. With a ‘spic and span’ orientation of an exclusive Catholic girls school’s classroom environment, she was somehow disappointed to see the old draperies hanging on the windows which had seen better days. She had to remind herself that this is a 1908 building, the very first University of the Philippines. Consoled with the thought that she was now part of a great institutional history, she felt gratified.

After class that first day, they were both standing together waiting for the green light to cross the street. Just before the light was on, they got to know that they are in the same class, both Cebuano-speaking and newly arrived in Manila. From that day on, they started crossing the same street together in the evenings after school, for the next two years, each time, an opportunity to appreciate the depth of each other’s spirit until they have became kindred souls…They both remember a card from Betty to Edwin towards the end of their studies, which reads: “To the guy who lays down the law from the gal who makes all the amendments” which had some bearing on some things to come. Edwin’s plan of returning home after their studies to serve his province took a different turn…

Growing Roots (Los Banos, Laguna & Manila). “Preparing the soil for the unexpected good to sprout in.” ~JRR Tolkien. After completing their classroom requirements for their MPA course, they tied their knot on January 9, 1982. They settled in Los Banos, Laguna where Betty resumed work with PCARRD and served her scholarship contract. Edwin passed the foreign service exams (also known as the toughest national government exam with only 10% passing rate). During this time - the turbulent years of the Marcos era - he joined the Department of Foreign of Affairs, the most stable and respected government institution at that time. Immersed in his new job, he had to postpone completion of his masteral course requirements. Betty on the other hand, reviewed for her comprehensive exams while infanticipating with their first baby. She was lovingly assisted by the best tutor she could ever have (Edwin), passed it and graduated in 1983 with Masters in Public Administration major in Policy Analysis and Program Administration.

In the middle of 1983, Edwin left for Australia under the Colombo Plan to take up a Foreign Service Officer’s Course in Canberra, Australia. Almost at this same time, Betty was sent by her office to Washington DC to attend a course in Governmental Management at George Mason University. After their short-term courses abroad, Edwin prepared himself for foreign assignment. He completed the Basic Foreign Service Officers Course at the Foreign Service Institute in Manila as well as studied French and Spanish Language Courses. As a new officer, he worked with Visa & Passport Divisions and later became Head of the DFA Unit in the One-Stop Processing Center for Overseas Workers.

In 1986, he completed two graduate studies: from U.P., Master in Public Administration major in Policy Analysis and Program Administration, and received the Robert Stauffer Award for Academic Excellence, being No.1 in the Dean’s List; and from National Defense College of the Philippines, Masters in National Security Administration for which he was commissioned Lieutenant Colonel in the Philippine Marines reserves.

Part Two

The Burgeoning Years (Madrid, Spain - Honolulu, Hawaii - Los Angeles, California). “When the April wind wakes the call for the soil, I hold the plough as my only hold upon the earth, and, as I follow through the fresh and fragrant furrow, I am planted with every foot-step, growing, budding, blooming into a spirit of spring”. ~Dallas Sharp. After the EDSA Revolution of 1986, Edwin and Betty together with their four-year old son Tristan excitedly packed up their belongings to head for their first foreign assignment. As Third Secretary and Vice Consul in the Philippine Embassy in Madrid, Spain, he was the most junior officer in the Embassy. Edwin and Betty tried to learn what needed to be learned, to become the best representatives of their country in a foreign land. Edwin took up Advanced International Studies and Commercial Spanish in Madrid. They were very fortunate to be under the tutelage of Ambassador and Mrs. Juan Jose Rocha, a political appointee and a successful business executive in Manila whose wife, with her grace, fine and cultured taste, is the epitome of a diplomatic spouse. With all its old world glory, high culture and precious art, Madrid, was a perfect training ground for any young diplomat. Serving a small Filipino community composed mostly of domestic helpers, a handful of the rich mestizo class, and a few scholars and students from the Philippines, gave them a good grasp of community. For the first time after her 10-year job in the Philippines, Betty was juggling her life between a full-time wife and mother, and a diplomatic spouse. In 1988, they were blessed with another son, Bernard. After four good years, they packed up to head for Honolulu, Hawaii, for their next assignment.

Suit clad, Edwin and Betty together with their two sons in European-style knee-high socks and knee-length shorts set foot on this ‘hang loose’ paradise. True to form diplomats, they wasted no time for culture shock. They wore Hawaiian shirts and flowery clothes like any other locals, enjoyed the sea and mountain view every minute of it, while the boys learned English for the first time, including ‘Pidgin” English. They were surprised to note that Filipinos in that part of the world call themselves Ilocanos. Coming from tightly-knit families, the Filipino community in Hawaii is one of the most ‘cohesive’ Filam communities in the US. After 14 months as Consul and Administrative Officer, the 2nd ranked officer of the Philippine Consulate in Hawaii, Edwin and family were whisked off to the bigger mainland city in Los Angeles, California.

From the clean and green refreshing Honolulu, they were welcomed with brown landscapes, smog and traffic jams and the Rodney King riot as they touched down LAX airport. In spite of the environmental challenges of this city, Edwin as one of the Consuls of the Philippine Consulate General in LA felt fortunate to serve the biggest jurisdiction of Filipino community outside the country. The LA Filam community which is by far the most diverse with more than 400 organizations, proved to be very demanding and formidable. But the young couple took it as challenge and opportunity to harness their skills, and most importantly, to find the ‘true north’ of their mission in the midst of these challenges. Betty, for the first time after six years, had a great break from just being wife, mother and a support to Edwin. Working in a law office, having one’s own little world in an 8 to 5 job, was a welcome change and a boost to one’s self-esteem. During the last year of their assignment, Edwin was appointed Acting Head of Post, another opportunity to ‘sharpen the saw’. But everything always seemed to happen in the blink of an eye in LA. Their memorable and productive three-year assignment in this city of contrasts was concluded with a big bang – the 1994 Northridge earthquake! Soon after the countless farewell parties during those aftershocks period, they packed up their suitcases, marking the end of their first tour of duty in this city.

The Fertilizing Era (Manila, Philippines). “Nothing is more important than reconnecting with your bliss. Nothing is as rich. Nothing is more real”. ~Deepak Chopra. As part of their career cycle, foreign service officers go back to the country at the end of their tour of duty, to reconnect, reinvigorate and get the real pulse of the country and people before they are sent again to foreign missions. While in Manila, Edwin was appointed Director for Political Affairs, then Executive Director of the Office for U.N. and International Organizations at DFA. He represented the country in, or was part of the Philippine delegations to various U.N. conferences on nuclear non-proliferation, chemical and biological weapons, human rights, environmental programs, international law, regional security, refugees, migration, international humanitarian law, Asia-Africa Consultative Committee and the Non-Aligned Movement which brought him to all continents of the world. He also advised the Philippine Senate on the ratification of some of these treaties. At the first APEC Summit in Manila, he was appointed liaison officer for Pres. Clinton. During this period, he took up Advanced Foreign Service Officers’ course at the Foreign Service Institute in Manila, the UNEP Distance Study Course on International Environmental Law in Nairobi & Manila, and the Career Ministers’ Course, after which he passed the Career Ministers’ Exam, a requirement for career Ambassador’s position.

Betty, on the other hand was fortunate to work for her friend, former colleague in Los Banos and now CEO-President of the sole distributor of Sun Microsystems, Inc. in Makati, Philippines. Her first corporate four-year work in the HR Department of this IT company, had given her a new sense of fulfillment, a new sense of self. To be able to touch real people’s lives in the workplace was for her the greatest opportunity her CEO friend, Cynthia Mamon gave her…a treasure that she is forever grateful.

The Flowering Time (Canberra, Australia - Los Angeles, California). “We can hold back neither the coming of the flowers nor the downward rush of the stream; sooner or later, everything comes to its fruition.” ~Loy Ching-Yuen. In 1998, Edwin received his assignment order as Minister and Consul General of the Philippine Embassy in Canberra, Australia. It was a dream come true. Canberra, a quiet garden city and capital of this young and vibrant country, was for them a paradise. It was a privilege to work for their indefatigable, seasoned lady Ambassador, Delia Domingo-Albert (later became the first lady Secretary of the Dept. of Foreign Affairs) who unselfishly shared her experience and wisdom, helping the Baels prepare for the ultimate in their career. As Minister and Consul General, Edwin with Betty had several opportunities to represent the Ambassador in official functions. For Betty, she was lucky to be hired soon after they arrived in Canberra, by the Visa Department of the British High Commission and through hard work, obtained a permanent position. As the only foreigner (other than the British nationals) in the workforce, she had to understand both Australian and British accent quickly. She not only learned the efficient British work system but gained wonderful friends there as well. After two short years, a surprise assignment order came. They were dragging their feet to leave Australia to assume post in LA as Consul General, Edwin’s first head of post assignment. The brief stint in paradise was for them “too beautiful to last”.

As a second timer in the LA post, the Baels somehow had a good feel of the challenges at hand. Arriving at LAX in 2000, they viewed the landscape with a new vision. At a time when the negative side of the Philippines was mostly highlighted, the Baels wasted no time and rolled up their sleeves. They also noted that the Filipino talents in the arts and culture arena provided positive impact all over the world. And LA as the gateway of visiting internationally recognized Filipino artists and professionals gave the Baels opportunity to showcase the best of the best Filipino talents. It was during this time that diplomats representing more than 80 countries in LA, the local officials, business and community leaders have frequented the Consul General’s residence who ‘wowed’ their performances and looked forward to the Bael's next invitation. At this time, Betty was a full-time support for Edwin. She was very active with international and local arts and culture organizations, always finding opportunities to be involved and showcase the Filipino artist. As a team, they successfully hosted many events which gained full support from the community. The community was mostly drawn by the classy way they showcased the jewels of their country, and which elicited pride from the community. During this period, the Philippine Consul General (Edwin) was counted with the Consuls General of Britain, France and Japan as the most influential diplomats who invariably got invited to select events and receptions involving the international community. With the dizzying pace of their 24-7 schedule attending to all their social and official functions, some things were brewing somewhere. Politics, intrigue and machinations crept in, especially after the change of administration of EDSA II. In one stroke of the pen, they decided to make a clean getaway and end their 20-year romance with the foreign service.

The Pruning Episode (San Diego, California). "One must be thrust out of a finished cycle in life, and that leap is the most difficult to make, when one would rather renew the faith and recreate the passion”. ~Anais Nin. Taking a six-month leave without pay, the Baels took a break from their heretofore hectic life in Orange County with loving friends who offered them shelter and solace. Taking the radical changes in stride and always trusting in the Great Almighty ("all things work together for the good of those who love Him"), their prayers were answered. Edwin was offered a job with an immigration law firm opening a new branch in San Diego. Following the cue to give closure to a chapter in life, Edwin decided to hand in his resignation/early retirement letter on the Philippine Independence Day of 2002, a symbolic way of saying goodbye to and declaring freedom from the institution he once loved and respected. Today, Edwin and Betty continue to showcase the beauty and the pride of the Filipino through their involvement with the New Americans Museum and Learning Center, Charles Hostler Institute on World Affairs of SDSU, Knights of Rizal, International Society of Cultural Ambassadors, Citizens Diplomacy Council of San Diego, Creative Communities Committee of the SD Commission of Arts and Culture, U.P. Alumni Association of San Diego, Los Angeles and San Diego Consular Corps, to name a few.

Epilogue. “Man, unlike any other thing organic or inorganic in the universe, grows beyond his work, walks up the stairs of his concepts, emerges ahead of his accomplishments.” ~Samuel Johnson. As we journey together to another chapter in our life, we look forward with joy to our “Autumn… a second spring, where every leaf is a flower” ~ Albert Camus




(Now)




"We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been - a place half-remembered and half-envisioned we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community. Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion without having the words catch in our throats. Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us, eyes will light up as we enter, voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power. Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done. Arms to hold us where we falter. A circle of healing. A circle of friends. Someplace where we can be free." ~ Starhawk


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Sunday, June 17, 2007

Edwin & Beatrice's 25th Anniversary Invitation


The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation that you ever had.” ~ Quoted



Because you are very special to us, we are privileged to invite you as
our Honored Guests to:

What: Our Silver Wedding Anniversary Celebration ...an all-year long celebration of LOVE in its barest simplicity, essence & beauty

When: January 9, 2007-January 9, 2008

Where: In your hearts, thoughts, & in the silence of your prayers with God's holy presence

We look forward to your company throughout the year

as we express our "Gratitude to Life" through small gestures of kindness to the most inconsequential things & beings in this world, this, our special way of celebrating a milestone as we believe that "The best portion of a good man's life is his little nameless, unremembered acts of kindness & of love."

With our sincerest appreciation,

Beatrice & Edwin,
together with our greatest blessings on earth - our sons,
Tristan Duke & Bernard Josef




“The world is so empty if one thinks only of the mountains, rivers, and cities;
but to know someone who thinks and feels with us, who is close to us in spirit, this makes the earth for us an inhabited garden”.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

THE WEDDING
January 9, 1982
San Carlos City, Negros Occidental, Philippines


"It turns out that it's not what we do with our Life
but who we spend it with that is crucial to our happiness."


THE SILVER WEDDING ANNIVERSARY
January 9, 2007
San Diego, California, USA

~~~

"True-life love stories never have endings..."

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Beatrice's 50th: A Black & White Party for Gawad Kalinga




The Black & White Theme: Life as a Poetry in Gratitude

A 'food for the soul' party like no other!
It's about the black & the white,
the yin & yang,
the tear & laughter,
the dawn & dusk,
the hello & goodbye,
the beginning & ending...
two opposing forces of life that give it profound meaning & depth...

Friends joined us celebrate ArtsyGutsy's 50th wonderful years by
rekindling the goodness & the spirit of gratitude of the Filipino.
Proceeds of this event benefitted the Gawad Kalinga Project
(building villages for the homeless).

An elegant cocktail-reception in a very unique floral showroom setting
laced with fine music, poetry & beautiful thoughts, flowers, candles &
the love of friends,
also an event to honor ArtsyGutsy's Gawad Kalinga Heroes:

Mr. Allan Camaisa
Dr. Ben Camacho
Ms. Tess Carandang
Mr. Ross Labadlabad
Ms. Yolly Rosario
Ms. Ellen Sexsion
Mr. Chris Mallari
Ms. Tata Villegas

Saturday, 17 December 2005, 5-10pm
Botanica, 2310-B Kettner Blvd., San Diego, Ca 92101
Black & White Cocktail Attire/Business Suit



"GRATITUDE is a twofold love --
love coming to visit us, and love running out to greet a welcome guest"
~ Henry Van Dyke








"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy;
they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom."
~ Marcel Proust





"There is a calmness to a life lived in gratitude, a quiet joy".
~ Ralph Blum





"Grace isn't a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. It's a way to live".
~Jackie Windspear





"Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.”
~ Kahlil Gibran





“Gratitude is the sign of noble souls”
~ Aesop





"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.... It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow."
~ Melodie Beattie





"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person.
Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." ~ Albert Schweitzer





"If one could only learn to appreciate the little things...
A song that takes you away, for there are those who cannot hear.
The beauty of a sunset, for those who cannot see.
The warmth and safety of your home, for those who are homeless.
Time spent with good friends, for those who are lonely.
A walk along the beach, for those who cannot walk.
The little things are what life is all about.
Search your soul and learn to appreciate."
~ Shadi Souferian





"As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world". ~Adabella Radici





"Of all the "attitudes" we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude
is the most important and by far the most life-changing".
~ Zig Ziglar





"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that
what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for".
~ Epicurus





"Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don't unravel".
~Author Unknown





"Generosity is self-existing openness, complete openness.
You are no longer subject to cultivating your own scheme or project.
And the best way to open yourself up is to make friends with yourself and with others".
~ Chogyam Trungpa





"Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed.
Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and GRATITUDE."
~ Denis Waitley





"We can only be said to be alive in those moments
when our hearts are conscious of our treasures".
~Thornton Wilder




"The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it".
~ Richard Bach





"Charity never humiliated him who profited from it, nor ever bound him by the chains of GRATITUDE, since it was not to him but to God that the gift was made".
~ Antoine De Saint-Exupery




“After sleeping through a hundred million centuries we have finally opened our eyes on a sumptuous planet, sparkling with color, bountiful with life. Within decades we must close our eyes again. Isn’t it a noble, an enlightened way of spending our brief time in the sun, to work at understanding the universe and how we have come to wake up in it?"
~ Richard Dawkins





“Today a thousand doors of enterprise are open to you, inviting you to useful work.
To live at this time is an inestimable privilege, and a sacred obligation
devolves upon you to make right use of your opportunities.
Today is the day in which to attempt and achieve something worthwhile.”
~ Grenville Kleiser


Thoughts 2003




"Thriving is elegant."
~ Maya Angelou

To New Possibilities

What better thought that summarizes our 2003 experience! Each new experience - big or small, happy or sad, triumphant or otherwise - brought us new levels & meanings of humaness & spirituality. With this in mind, we strive to grow & blossom every moment with charm & grace. Indeed, to begin taking roots & sprouting leaves in the midst of challenges, in a new environment, & on a new journey - this time with America - is wonderful.

Edwin continues to find meaning in his work with the Immigration Law Office of Korenberg, Abramowitz & Feldun; it provides him opportunities to help people of different races achieve their American dream. As former Consul General, he pursues the dream of making a difference by contributing to the advancement of Filipino & other immigrants here in America. He recently got appointed as Board Member of the prestigious & newly organized Immigration Museum of the New Americans Post WW2 based in San Diego. Home & family have taken center stage in his life this year.

Beatrice for her part, is blessed to have family & friends who support her vision to explore boundless opportunities not only to sharpen her 'creative saw' & fulfill her passion to support Filipino & Asian arts & culture but also to explore mutually advantageous pursuits. She considers the following as her key involvements in 2003: The Rizal Breakfast which she coordinated with Edwin for the Immigration Museum; Asian Fashion Fantasy to showcase the Fashion Designers Association of the Philippines & support San Jacinto Foundation's School for the Underprivileged Students in the Philippines; Farewell Performance of the University of the Philippines Concert Chorus World Tour '03 in Los Angeles; the Filipino American Library Gala in Los Angeles; and the Asian Enterprise Awards held in San Diego.

Tristan Duke, intensely expressive & creative, a young man with an attitude, dares to manifest his artistic inclinations through his studies in telemedia & communications. At six feet two with a gym-sculpted physique, carelessly handsome, and with a flair for fashion, he actively supports Mom's artistic undertakings by being one of the models of the Asian Fashion Fantasy, & designing the stage for the Asian Enterprise Awards. More importantly, he devotes his time helping the family in every way to make this trying interlude, a little more bearable. At this stage in a young man's life, he defies expectations when he takes an effort to understand & be patient when being rebellious & reckless would be the easier thing to do.

Bernard Josef, at fifteen, strikes a higher level of love affair with the computer. He gathers friends from all over the world through the internet, playing competitive games as well as exchanging ideas on web designs. Most of the time, his ideas are sought after by his high-tech friends, a preoccupation that may gain for him financial advantage, but at the moment, serves as a channel for his artistic & intellectual energies. He has slimmed down & grown as tall as his Dad.

Family & friends, the meaning of Christmas for us in the past year has added a new dimension: we count as our gifts beautiful people like you...for the most beautiful people we have known are those who have experienced all kinds of difficulties, and "have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, & a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." We thank our dear Lord for the gifts of beautiful people in our lives throughout the year - YOU!

To new possibilities in 2004 !
Wishes from

Edwin, Beatrice, Tristan Duke & Bernard Josef

Edwin's 50th: A Champagne Party



"For man, autumn is a time of harvest, of gathering together.
For nature, it is a time of sowing, of scattering abroad".

~ Quoted

Edwin's 50th is a toast to life, family, & friendship,
celebrated with a Champagne Party on Nov. 16, 2002
at the Eastlake Shores Beach Club in Chula Vista, CA.
It was attended by family & very special friends
from Los Angeles & San Diego.



The End of the 20-Year Romance & New Beginning: San Diego, California

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
~ Gandhi



The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time.”

- Abraham Lincoln


“The past is solid, the future is liquid.”
- J.L. Aubert










"All the world's a stage, and all the men & women, merely players,
they have their exits & entrances. And one man in his time plays many parts."

~Shakespeare, As You Like It

2002: The End Of The 20-Year Romance

"To understand a man, you must know his memories..."
~Anthony Quayle

And what do we remember of our 20 years romance with foreign service? Perhaps, it would take another 20 years to unravel the intricate designs that make up this all too-wonderful-all-too-exciting-all-too-satisfying work this world could offer. It is because foreign service is not just a job, it is a life.

Remnants of the memory glow & we see only the effects - what we have become all these years. It has fashioned us to become more resilient to life's ups & downs, helloes & goodbyes, beginnings & endings. This life teaches us to welcome all challenges with brave hearts & never with faint spirits.

Today, as the year nears its end, we remember not the agonies we experienced through the past months but the lessons they teach us. As we also look back at all the 20 beautiful years, we borrow these thoughts: "It was a time of such splendor - charming people, good food, laughter, and brave ideas - enough to entertain us for years." ~ Maya Angelou


2003 & Beyond: Definitely There's Life After The Romance

Someone says that "Memories are like corks left out of bottles. They swell. They no longer fit." True. Especially as we embark on our new journey this coming year & beyond, we see ourselves experiencing the exhiliration of freedom.

June 12, 2002 marks the conclusion of our government service. The preceding events clearly indicate that "one must be thrust out of a finished cycle in life, and that leap is the most difficult to make, when one would rather renew the faith & recreate the passion." ~Anais Nin

Enriched with our experiences, we are ready to embrace life's new challenges, as we open a new chapter in life. "Change can come anytime but transition comes along when one chapter of your life is over & another is waiting in the wings to make its embrace." ~William Bridges, Transitions

To old colleagues & old friends, we thank you for the memories. To new colleagues & new friends, we thank you for the dreams. To our dear Lord, family, & friends-for-life, we thank you for both the memories & the dreams...

Edwin, Beatrice, Tristan Duke & Bernard Josef

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Love is Lovelier The Second Time Around: Los Angeles-Beverly Hills, California


But because truly being here is so much; because everything here apparently needs us, this fleeting world, which in some strange way keeps calling to us. Us, the most fleeting of all. Once for each thing. Just once; no more. And we too,just once. And never again. But to have been this once, completely, even if only once: to have been at one with the earth, seems beyond undoing.
- Rainer Maria Rilke, Duino Elegies, 9th, 1923
Translated by Stephen Mitchell







“When Time who steals our years away
Shall steal our pleasures too,
The mem'ry of the past will stay,
And half our joys renew.”
~ Thomas Moore, 1779-1852



“So many years in one yesterday.”
~ Carla Phelps Wert


“This grand show is eternal. It is always sunrise somewhere;
the dew is never all dried at once; a shower is forever falling;
vapor is ever rising. Eternal sunrise, eternal sunset, eternal
dawn and glowing, on sea and continues and islands, each
in its turn, as the round earth rolls.”
~ John Muir



“All my possessions for a moment of time.”
- Queen Elizabeth I


‘Only the ephemeral is of lasting value.’
~ Ionesco

“To these delights of a garden, age may add a further interest which can hardly be distinguished from beauty, for the mind, at least with those who have the historic instinct, is always longing to be connected with the past, and dreading for itself confinement upon the plane of time, delights in evidences of the long continuance of nations, families and institutions, in hale and vigorous old age, in long-settled peace beyond the turn of Fortune's wheel, the 'scornful dominion of accident.' Restfulness is the prevailing note of an old garden; in this fairy world of echo and suggestion where the Present Age never comes but to commune with the Past, we feel the glamour of a Golden Age, of a state of society just and secure which has grown and blossomed as the rose.”
~ Sir George Sitwell, On the Making of Gardens, 1909


“Let it be forgotten, as a flower is forgotten,
Forgotten as a fire that once was singing gold,
Let it be forgotten forever and ever,
Time is a kind friend, he will make us old.”
~ Sara Teasdale, Let it Be Forgotten




“It is like clouds rising in the sky: suddenly there, gone without a trace.
And it is like drawing a pattern on water: it is neither born nor passes away.
This is cosmic peace and eternal rest.
When it is enclosed, it is called the matrix of the realization of suchness;

When it emerges from the enclosure, it is called the cosmic body of reality.”
~ Ma-tsu



"The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post."
~ Thomas Holcroft


Suddenly, as rare things will, it vanished.”
~ Elizabeth Barret Browning




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